Source: Green Wedding Shoes|Alternate title: The Reluctant Bride
As far as true brides go, I am not even close to taking the crown.
I am head over heels in love and grateful each and every day for having this person in my life. If that makes you roll your eyes, so be it. But it’s true. The moments, weeks that followed our engagement were the most blissful of my life when it comes to love. Meals were a little longer and daily annoyances were just noise. We’d been together for over six years but something made this different. We are an official team now so I suppose that did it. We were impossibly high and boy, if I could bottle that up.
The questions derailed us for a bit, let me tell you. We are very private people when it comes to our relationship. I gush to a few friends here and there but for the most part, my version of utmost respect for my partner is keeping our relationship ours. We’re just enjoying our engagement for now only suffices for so long. I understand the questions are a form of curiosity and love. I also understand that our call to make choices that will please others is deeply hardwired in our DNA. Even if these choices would mean compromising what it is you know to be right.
It is more than easy to get caught up in the whole wedding thing. Some call it the WIC (Wedding Industrial Complex), I call it being a twenty-something who is on the grid and a product and member of our society. The system is designed to make you think you’re missing out on something when you decide the typical pomp and circumstance isn’t right for you. Like many other conversations surrounding choice, your most vulnerable emotions-love, regret, guilt-are targeted.
But fear not, dear reader, we have not been derailed! We had to dig deep though, face essential questions like why and how, to figure out what is most important to us on our day. Coming out on the other side I can say we’re feeling strong and confident and I hope so much that every couple has the opportunity to conduct the same search to identify what their day will be. I know this is not always the case but I hope that very much for you. If that’s traditional-wearing your mom’s dress, big white wedding with your whole village-go you! But if your day consists of you and your lifelong special someone walking down to city-hall and exchanging a ten-minute ceremony, know that day is just as meaningful.
I am really excited to be married. I’m marrying someone who loves me because of, not in spite of, my independence in every part of this life and for that I am perpetually grateful.