Valentine’s Day is quite possibly my favorite day of the year. I love the excuse (though who needs one really?) to indulge in a glass of bubbly and spoil my sweetie with steak frites and a flourless chocolate torte.
The gift-giving, though, gets a little out of hand. While you know I adore flowers and aforementioned chocolate, there is a better gift to be had: Tell your partner, your best friend, or anyone you care about why you love them so much. There you have it! The most frugal, minimalist advice for making this day the most indulgent yet. Whether it be scribbling on a piece of paper, selecting a poem that does the work for you, or just a few words that typically go unsaid, the message will be the same: I love you and here’s why.
Last month we selected an officiant for our little ceremony this Spring. From our first exchange (and his countless positive reviews) I knew he was it. After a few exchanges about our vision for the day and his approach, he gave us a simple assignment: I want each of you to write down three words that describe the other. Three words?! My first response was to treat it like a academic assignment wherein I had something to prove: creativity, wit, intelligence…But wait a minute, what the hell was I doing? This is my love, my reflection on a few words that could sum up the indescribable person I am marrying. Not a reflection on what I think our relationship is supposed to be.
So we took a little while (2 weeks actually) to come up with these words. At first I wondered if they were meant to keep secret, to reveal at the ceremony… But we decided to share and you know what? This little exercise was a perfect platform to stop and express our appreciation for one another and how we see the other, during a time that is far too hurried.
Challenge yourself to give the gift of love and transparency during these harsh winter months. I’ll speak for myself in saying that’s the only gift I want from anyone anyway.